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Thursday, April 29, 2010

Mom and Me Time

Years ago, a young mother was making her way across the hills of South Wales, carrying her tiny baby in her arms, when she was overtaken by a blinding blizzard. She never reached her destination and when the blizzard had subsided her body was found by searchers beneath a mound of snow. But they discovered that before her death, she had taken off all her outer clothing and wrapped it about her baby. When they unwrapped the child, to their great surprise and joy, they found he was alive and well. She had mounded her body over his and given her life for her child, proving the depths of her mother love. Years later that child, David Lloyd George, grown to manhood, became prime minister of Great Britain, and, without doubt, one of England’s greatest statesman.

Mother's understand that kind of sacrifice. That's the kind of love we have for our children. We would literally give our lives for them. Sometimes, however, we need to be reminded in the midst of the "blizzard" to stop and play in the snow with our child. I hope you understand my analogy. We certainly don't stop in the middle of a dangerous situation and play, but the kind of blizzard that I'm referring to is the day to day routine of mothering.

We get everyone up, we fix three meals each day, we clean the house, we get the children off to school, or teach them at home, we fix scraped knees, return the overdue books to the library, buy the groceries, take the dog for his rabies shot, we shuttle the children to piano lessons, bake brownies for our daughter's youth meeting, make sure that homework gets completed, get everyone off to bed, and then fall into bed ourselves completely exhausted. But as we look back on the day, we must ask: How many minutes in that very full day were spent just spending time being with your child, one on one, eyeball to eyeball, nose to nose, doing something just for fun?


I heard someone say "When you're up to your neck in alligators, it's difficult to keep your mind on the fact that your primary objective is to drain the swamp." Those children are around you all day, swimming in your swamp and you stay so busy, but can I just encourage you to take time to be with them? I was challenged by this years ago when we attended Family camp. A dear lady encouraged moms to have "Mom and Me Time." This was a daily time of thirty minutes devoted to one child. I wish I could say I was faithful to this every day all through their lives, but that is far from the truth, but I do have some very special memories of the times we spent together. I only had two girls, so I could easily spend time with each of them each day, but if you have many children, perhaps you need to spend thirty minutes a day with a different child - make your rounds!

The things we did in those thirty minutes varied each day, and changed as the girls grew older. But this isn't just for little children - teens need to spend time with you just as much - perhaps even more! With young children you could:

  • bake something, or work on a dish for the supper meal together, play a board game, play on the swing set, draw on the sidewalk with chalk, teach your child to play hopscotch, ride bikes, play badminton or H-O-R-S-E on the basketball court.

With an older child you could:

  • Teach a daughter a hobby - scrapbooking, card making, sewing, or cake decorating (anything that interests her). Have her teach you something about the computer! Discuss a book you're both reading - Set Apart Femininity, for example. Go to Starbucks and have a beverage and play a board game there. Play an outdoor sport such as tennis.

  • Talk to your son about being a man, a leader and a gentleman. Have him teach you about his favorite sport. Jogging or walking together each day would be a great way to spend thirty minutes with your child, and be able to talk (if you can talk and exercise at the same time!)

The ideas are endless - the point is - just plan to have Mom and Me Time. Mark it into your schedule and make a plan for what you'll do. Time together will build a strong relationship and will provide you with wonderful memories you'll both treasure. The Scripture says, Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. Make a sacrifice while your child is with you - you won't believe how soon they'll be gone.

With Love,

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

I pray that the women who read this take heed. I am a mother who was preoccupied and failed to make this connection with my children. They are grown now. I can't redeem that time. But I do trust Jesus to help me reach them now. Its just so much harder. They are now the ones preoccupied. They learned well!

Denise said...

Thank you for your honesty. Your comment was powerful. Thank you for sharing your heart. I'll be praying with you that the Lord will give you wisdom to reach your children.

Carol Flett said...

Wonderful advice. I am a grandma now, have a christianparents blog to remind those who have already past the mom stage that we can still have that same kind of impact on grandchildren.
I am recommending this post on twitter

Denise said...

Thank you, Carol! We all need to be reminded of eternal perspectives in the way we use our time, don't we?

Debby said...

Yes! Tho our son is on the other side of the USA, my prayer is that God use me as I reach across the miles to our little Granddaughter (and second one on the way). We homeschooled through 9th grade, and there's still reaching to do after 15 years.

Dear God, I pray for strong warm arms to continue reaching. Amen