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Tuesday, February 23, 2010

A Heart for Your Children

Does a mother really need instruction on how to love her children? Doesn't it just come natural? It must not, because the instruction in Titus 2 is for the older woman to teach the younger woman "to love her children." This month's instruction in our Bible study by Elizabeth George was a good encouragement for women - no matter in what stage of life we find ourselves.

We are reminded that our first responsibility is our relationship to God. As we love Him, then we can better love our husbands; our second responsibility. Our next priority is our children.
As Elizabeth travels around the country speaking to women, she finds that one of the most asked questions from young women is: "Where are the older women?" These are young women looking for an older woman to help guide them as they seek to obey these very commands. Elizabeth said, "It's not that we don't necessarily know what to share, it means that somehow our lives are too busy to help them." We need to be teachers of these good things if there is someone younger than ourselves that needs a guide. Will that person be you and me? I pray so!

How to have a heart for our children:
1. A mother is to teach the Word of God. Proverbs 1:8 My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother. This is a dual role for the parents.
We as mothers are to teach the Divine Law of God. The mother is key when it comes to imparting the Word of God to the children. Somebody in the household has to reach over and turn off the television and pick up the Word of God. You're never wasting time when you teach your children the Bible. Isaiah 55:11 So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.

We never know what our children are going to face. Corrie Ten Boom's father instructed them that the Word of God was a precious tool that He could use through them. Through the persecution that Corrie suffered during World War II, the Word was her comfort during the hard days of the concentration camps, and she used it to minister to many - even her enemies. Pouring the Word of God into our children will prepare them for whatever God has for them.

2. A mother is to teach her children wisdom. Proverbs 6:21 My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother. Proverbs 31:1 1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him... This is teaching that is based on God's Word. Deuteronomy 6:5,6 And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart. It has to be in our heart first, then we can pour it into our children's lives. All day long, every breath, every sentence, when you sit down, when you rise up - 24/7 this teaching of the law of God is going on in your house. This takes work to teach diligently. We have to choose to mention the Lord.

A Christian aunt or grandmother can make a huge difference in child's life. In every small thing we must relate it all back to God. There are more opportunities to do this if the television is off! "I don't care if 'the wheels on the bus go round and round!'" Every mother can sing that, every child can sing that, but what is more important is, what do they know about God's Word? What do they know about the Lord Jesus Christ?

We talk about what is important to us. We talk about people, the news, all kinds of things, but if we fail to talk about God's Word, we are relaying a very important message to our children. Our words are important, but our walk is also important. What are we doing? What are we not doing? It can be positive, it can be negative. We are to talk it, we are to walk it. As Patch the Pirate says, "Your walk talks, and your talk talks, but your walk talks louder than your talk talks!"

3. We are to dedicate our children to God. Proverbs 31:2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows? This is King Lemuel's mother writing instruction to her son. Hear the passion in her voice! Here is a son, either dedicated to God, or asked of God in prayer, but the piety of this mom is to be what God wants her to be towards her son. He is often the subject of her very earnest prayers! Many mothers of "famous" Christian leaders" had mothers that gave hours a day or a whole day a week just to pray for their children! Our prayers are one way we dedicate our children.

We also dedicate our children through our practice! Many often bring the children to church for minimal exposure instead of maximal! We give them just a little taste when they need a whole helping! Elizabeth shared with us that she saw her role in her girl's life to get them to the church for every activity that was offered. She said, "It wasn't a spiritual gift, but it was the gift of driver! That's what I was!" Dedicate your children to God.

4. A mother is to love her children. This is an affectionate love. We become children lovers.

How do you love your children?
  • Do provide the necessities - food, clothing and rest.
  • Do be predictably happy. Proverbs 113:9 He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children.
  • Do be the giver of everything - that's your role. We give and expect nothing in return.
  • Do have a ball. Make everything fun. Be silly. Make sure fun is a part of your family's diet.
  • Do make everything special. You have to make a meal anyway; make it special. Make the day special.
  • Don't give to others what you haven't given to your family first.
  • Don't double book. Don't be on the phone when your children are arriving home. Don't have meetings in the evening when you could have had it earlier in the day.

Some have had kings in their lineage,

some to whom honor was paid,

not blessed of my ancestors, but -

I had a mother who prayed.

I have a mother who prays for me,

who pleads to the Lord every day for me,

Oh what a difference it makes for me,

I have a mother who prays!

Some have world success,

and trust in riches they've made,

but this is my surest asset -

I have a mother who prays!

My mother's prayers cannot save me,

only mine can avail,

But Mother introduced me to Someone,

Someone who never can fail.

Oh yes, I have a mother who prays for me,

who pleads to the Lord every day for me.

Oh, what a difference it makes for me,

I have a mother who prays!

--Author unknown

God has given us an assignment if we're mothers, aunts, or grandmothers - we are to have a heart for our children.

'Til next time,

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